Real life dementors

Flaws, People, psychology
  • Screenshot_20190718_090436IMG_20190716_115526_941.jpgWhy is it rude if I were to tell someone to stfu or walk away from a conversation? Well not exactly a conversation when it’s one sided and I’m having someone talking at me non stop about themselves, It’s hard to get one word in and if you manage it it gets reverted back to themselves again, me me me and me. It’s the same shit you’ve heard time and time again so it’s not just a random venting rant day were sometimes you just have to get things off your chest,It’s all the goddam time. It’s draining.

However with the passage of time you start to feel that person becomes a bit of a burden,They tell you the same shit over and over again.They are the type of person who feels authorized to talk about any subject, although they don’t know anything about it. And nobody can get them to shut up.

After you talk to that kind of person, you feel like you have wasted your time. Because ultimately it wasn’t a conversation it was a sparring match in a monologue, That’s why it’s likely that when you find that person again, you’ll make up some excuse to avoid another chat.

Actually, it doesn’t even cross their mind that their droning on and on can bore others. And if they are told this directly, they will assume that the problem lies with the other person, not within themselves.

They have excessive need for all the attention  to be focused on them.They feel gratification if they can get others to listen to them all the time. They perceive this as proof of their own worth. This type of person fails to get in tune with other people’s desires. Instead, they always revolve around their own needs.

People who talk non stop obviously have a great need to be heard or listened to. Though they might not be saying anything at all. Talking with other people distracts them from the inner dialogue that each one of us maintains with ourselves. That person doesn’t want to listen to themselves. They only want to be heard. They look at themselves through other people.

You can’t offer advice as they’ve done that,can’t do that,that won’t work, just all and any excuses.

They’ve always got it bad,no one else has ever had or has it bad,no one else has problems of their own only them.

Because they are vocal about everything and others aren’t,you have no gripes of your own.Everyone else has problems too.

POINTING OUT OTHER PEOPLE’S FLAWS

Flaws, People

Why do other people think it’s ok to point people’s flaws out??

I’ve had this done to me numerous times by others,mainly 2 scf.

“Ooo you’ve got grey hair coming through the roots”…..I know as it’s my hair and I have mirrors in my home

“Oooo you’ve got a spot”……I know as it’s my face and I have mirrors in my home

“Oooo I can see wrinkles…..I know it’s my face I’m in my 40s and I have mirrors in my home

I mean I notice things on other people but don’t point it out because it’s rude and Im not that person and as like me they’ll know themselves…

Growing up in the 80s and 90s

1980s

Life seemed so much more simpler back in the 80s and 90s growing up.

If you wanted to see if your friends were coming out to play you would have to walk to their house to see if they were in,if not walk all the way back home,Even though we all had house phones we rarely phoned each other.

Being grounded was the worst punishment, not being allowed out for a week or 2

We’d all play out and come back home in time for tea

As teenagers and young adults there was no mobile phones,cameras,cam- corders with evidence of embarrassing photos videos

You’d get about an hour and a half of TV after school followed by neighbours and home and away

Even though there wasn’t as many TV channels as there is today it still had the best TV shows in my opinion..You had…

Grange hill,byker grove,raggy dolls,woof,the demon headmaster,t.bag,he-man,inspector gadget,knight rider and much more

And the films….omg I still love them now,karate kid,Goonies,dirty dancing,don’t tell mom the babysitters dead,big, labyrinth,back to the future

On Sundays we would sit with our stereo listening the the top 40 countdown fingers at the ready to press record on our favourite songs..

Tiffany,Kylie,wet wet wet,bros

We used to play on our bikes,roller skates.

I used to have a huge collection of Barbie and sindy dolls and more clothes for them than I had.

I used to own a cabbage patch doll which came with a adoption certificate which was the best thing ever.I also had a couple of care Bear teddys and a Orville doll which I got upset about because I thought he’d talk to me like he did on the TV 😆

The fashion was raa raa skirts, dungarees and shell suits

As teenagers we’d get someone to buy our alcohol and drink white lightning and MD 20 20, which to this day I know just the smell of it would make me throw up.

There wasn’t as many shops back then so everything was local shops,local baker,local newsagents which the paper boy used to deliver the newspaper,we used to have a milkman that delivered our milk,and the bin men used to come round the back of our house to fetch the bins.

Although the internet and social media has its uses I do miss the simple life.

WHAT TO BINGE WATCH

netflix TV shows

person eyeWe don’t tend to watch much tv,well what’s classed as “the norm TV” anyway.

We always find something to binge watch on Netflix instead.And because we binge watch we then have nothing to watch.So far we have watched and enjoyed in no particular order..

Breaking bad, big little lies,dead to me,end of the fucking world,the punisher season 1, Glow,peaky blinders, orange is the new black,game of thrones.

So if there’s any suggestions of anything to watch it would be much appreciated ❤️🎞️🎬📺

New book suggestions??

books and reading

books on bookshelves
I absolutely love to read and have done from a very young age.My first memory of my love of reading and favourite books were Heidi,Milly Molly Mandy and listening to audio tapes which I would re listen to over and over again,the tapes I remember we’re the famous five,and Mallory towers.As I’ve got older I’ve realised I can’t just read any book,if I can’t get into a book within the first 3 pages I know I won’t enjoy it as I have a tendency to zone out daydream and will of re read the same paragraph 97 times.

So I’m on the look out for new books to read.I take about 2 books with me on holiday and even though I’m on vacation I still manage to read them both.

My favourite books are the Harry potter books,Eleanor Oliphant is ok,pure,the tattooist of Austwich and anything by Maureen lee that’s set in the 1930s_1960s.

Any suggestions?….

Bucket list travel

Travel

We’ve been to many places over the years and still have many more we’d love to visit in the future.

Our favourite place in the world is Florida

Places we’ve been to so far.. Orlando Miami,Naples,key West,fort Lauderdale,Las Vegas,grand canyon,Yosemite,santa Monica,Morro bay, Monterey,lone pine,Newport beach,Laguna beach,San Francisco,Bahamas,Cuba,turkey,Egypt, Portugal, Lanzarote,furturventura, Ibiza, Cornwall, Scarborough,London and even skeggy 🤔🤪

Here’s just a few of the ones on our bucket list to visit..

Seattle

Boston

New Orleans

Sweden

Alaska

Canada

Greece

South of France

Mexico

Is there any more must places to visit that I’ve not thought of going to??

#lovetotravelandexploretheworld ✈️🌞

How we afford our vacations??

Travel

A lot of people ask us how we afford our vacations 👃💤🤔!! It’s simple and not that hard if you do your research..

AND BASICALLY IM SICK AND TIRED OF THE LOADED WITH ASSUMPTION QUESTION OF HOW DO YOU AFFORD TO GO ON HOLIDAY FROM THAT CERTAIN FEW.

(I’ve literally seen a post from so called friends saying,I like going on vacations because I’m missing something in life and me and my husband only go on holidays to keep the spark alive? Wtf! lol,After over 20 years together and going on vacations for that amount of time that must be the only reason we do it! 🙀)
It insinuates travelling is expensive to begin with (it’s not if you put research into it) and I’m too poor to afford it!! Also it states you’re just too lazy to do your own research on finding a good priced holiday.

You may as well travel as much as you can if you enjoy it whilst you have the money to do so and your health as you never know what’s around the corner.

Different People asking this question, to my face or have been talking about it behind my back to others..what you choose to spend your money on is up to you I couldn’t care less and it’s not my business,don’t presume I spend the same money and live the same lifestyle as you, so whilst you’re paying for…
Going out drinking
Going to concerts,gigs, theatre, getting tattoos
Buying brand new cars
Having a bigger mortgage/house
Buying designer clothing
Fags and alcohol
The latest mobile phone
Scratch cards and lots of lottery tickets
Credit cards/loans

Weekends away

Days out all the time
The latest fads gadgets and trends
Or whatever else you’re choosing to spend money on

Now add all of that up on a calculator, I don’t ask you how you afford all this as it’s rude and nowt to do with me
And remember…..

We both go to work
I don’t have a massive house and massive mortgage

I don’t own a fancy car
I don’t have to have fancy designer labels

We don’t have babies or small children,Our children are now adults

I don’t go out drinking every week
I don’t go out to concerts,gigs etc
I don’t keep getting tattoos
I don’t smoke/drink
I don’t buy into the latest fads,trends and gadgets society tells me to

I save money and spend money wisely
Now add that up and it equals to more or less the same amount…It’s called common sense!!!
I want to spend my money on holidays not on things others class as the norm I’m not a bloody sheep following the herd!!

And ask yourself wtf has it got anything to do with you in the first place and why it bothers you so??!!

Spend your money on what makes you happy!